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Wednesday, January 14, 2009

3:11 AM

Don't you just hate it when someone judges you even before trying to know the whole story?

Doesn't it insult you that just because you're too upfront, people conclude that you're the wrong one?

Isn't it irritating when people say too many things, yet it comes out that they don't really understand your way of thinking?

Isn't it frustrating when no matter how many times you explain, they just do not get your point?

You know, people can be soooo insensitive. They won't say "Okay lang yan" nga but they'll say so many words that are just...unneeded, oh and yeah, totally unrelated to the topic. Worse, they talk as if they're the ones in the situation--without really seeing the big picture.

Oh my god, I'm fed up with these people. For once, can anybody just LISTEN?

Monday, January 12, 2009

3:07 AM

There are times when you'd rather keep things to yourself. You'd rather not talk about how you feel or what you think because once you share it with someone, the spreading begins.

Why can't people keep your secrets? Is it that hard to remain silent? Is it an effort to keep your mouth shut?

Isn't it frustrating when someone knows exactly what you've gone through but since time has already passed, that someone will tell your experience to others as if your life was an open book?

It's so hard to find someone you can trust nowadays. Someone whom you're sure will not say anything to anyone. Someone who will just absorb everything you tell him and store it somewhere in his brain where it can only be remembered when extremely needed.

I have friends who are not good at handling their tongues, yet, I choose to disregard that fact since they're more important to me than my issues. But I cannot help myself sometimes. I cannot help but feel bad for opening up to someone who could be at times, unworthy of my trust.

I just cannot take people who do not know when and when not to talk. I hate people who starts blabbing about what you tell them just because you didn't say it's supposed to be a secret. I mean, hello? Did the word privacy ever encounter them? It's funny how you have to treat those people like kids--directly telling them that "Hey, you're not supposed to say this and that, ha?"

I don't know what kind of thinking they have. More often than not, I'd like to think they're just not using their common sense. Either that, or they really want to start something--a chismis, a fight, anything.

On the other hand, I have friends who are very good with keeping what I tell them, only, they're not always available.

Nothing in this world is really perfect.

You really cannot have it all.

Not even with friends.

Will you change for a guy/girl?

Friday, January 2, 2009

3:02 AM

This has been one of the most frequently asked questions in every magazine, interview and talk show guesting.

This is even the topic friends usually talk about.

But really, should we change for our future partner?

Some proudly say they will never change. Some stick to the usual “Love me for who I am.”

But in my point of view, relationships do not work that way. For me, change is needed.

You see, I believe some people become defensive because they think the word change is bad. They believe that to change for a person actually means changing in a bad way. But I don’t think it’s the case, really. I think changing simply means showing that you know how to compromise.

When we start to date someone, regardless if we like him (yet) or not, don’t we in a way, change? Physically, we start to care more about the way we look (read: thinking of what we’ll wear; putting perfume 8x/day; etc), and that doesn’t necessarily indicate bad change, does it?

When we start getting to know that someone, and realize that he/she has a passion for something (ex: reading), don’t we in a way, become more interested with that particular hobby/thing/belief? Sometimes, we even end up liking the same thing. And that’s actually a form of change, isn’t it?

Even after your dating stages are over, you still find yourself changing for the person you’re with, right? It’s just that sometimes, you do not realize it until it’s there.

Being with someone means getting used to his/her habits, and sometimes, we end up doing them, too. Being with someone also means getting a different point of view, and sometimes, we end up thinking his/her view is better than ours, and we start believing in it more. Even our personalities change because of our partners. You could be ultra-conservative now, but who knows? When you meet a liberated guy/girl, your views will change and so will your personality. All these are changes, but they’re not necessarily bad, are they?

I have nothing against the people who are not open to changes. It’s their life, after all. All I’m trying to say is that I believe in changes. I believe it’s healthy. And I believe it’s needed.

Yes, it’s true; our partners should love us for who we are. But then again, if change means us becoming better persons, why not do it?

Life is an endless journey. Once we are a part of this journey, we do not stop learning. When we learn, we change. Thus, change is inevitable.

I guess we just have to keep in mind what our evaluation of good and bad is. We just have to know our limitations.

If we change only for other people and we won’t benefit anything from it, I guess that’s when it becomes bad.

But as long as changing will help us become more lovable (to our partners and to everybody else), by all means, I suggest we embrace it